Wednesday, July 9, 2008

So close yet so far

I don't know if I told you that my sister-in-law is pregnant? She is having a baby girl in December. Baby girls are rare in all of our families, in my family there are 15 biological grandchildren and only 4 girls and then my sister has 3 step daughters, my husband's family there are 11 grandchildren and only 1 girl and my sister-in-laws family (the one that's pregnant) there is something like 15 grandchildren and 1 girl. Needless to say we were all so excited to find out she was having a little girl. Although excited I was also a little shocked by how I felt. Let me just give you some background information. About a year ago my brother-in-law called my husband and said on his recent trip to Guatemala he had talked with a friend there (he lived there for 2 years) and that his niece was having a baby girl that she wanted to adopt out but she wanted the baby to go to a Christian family, I guess in the U.S.A. So my brother-in-law called my husband and asked if we wanted to adopt this baby girl. I did not hesitate at all but said yes I would take the baby. So since my brother-in-law spoke Spanish he was dealing with the legal aspects. He found an attorney that started working on the case and we were discussing what all we would have to do, we'd have to find a nanny to take care of the baby while the paperwork was being done since we would be unable to take our baby home immediately. I was really excited and then a month after we had had the above conversation my brother-in-law called to let us know that the mother had decided to keep the baby (it still makes me cry today). Even though the baby wasn't born yet I felt horrible and felt like I had a baby just out of reach that I would never get. So since then I've been thinking about adopting a baby and lately I've been thinking it's time to start the paperwork. We'll see how it goes I haven't even begun the process and I know it's typically a long process.


jules said...

Wow, that must have been awful. I've always wanted to adopt. I had a hard getting pregnant and would have adopted if we needed to. My sister-in-law is in the process of getting ready to adopt. She is single and doesn't want to wait to become a mother. I think adopting is a wonderful thing to do.

Lynn said...

Thanks! You'll have to let me know how it goes with your sister-in-law. I know a lady that lives near me who adopted a son 22 years ago and it turned out to be a great thing because she never did end up getting married. So it was a really neat experience for her.

Julie said...

There are definitely a lot of great kids out there that need a good home.

On a fun note, you've been tagged!!

SweetAbbs said...

Makes me sad everytime I think about it too that I lost my cute little Guatemalen niece. Granted she wasn't born yet but she would have been my niece so of course she was cute. It runs in the family.....:) I'm excited that you are thinking about starting the process. Then your hubs can buy cute polka dot swimming suits for his daughter too.